The Hard Discovery That Life Is Not All About Me

All About Me

When I was a little girl, life was all about me. I was an only child living at home. My siblings were all much older and already out of my parent’s house. The good part of this was I was the center of all their attention, even the siblings. There was no sibling rivalry. I was the baby princess. Not a bad life to have and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.


I remember going to the pediatrician. My doctor would ask how I was doing and my mother would answer for me, “She is spoiled rotten.” My doctor always replied, “She’s not rotten. She’s just loved.” I was loved and I was spoiled too.


An all about me attitude wasn’t such a big deal as a little girl.


Then I grew up and began to see that everyone did not think of me as a baby princess. An all about me attitude brought me some disappointment as I discovered the hard reality that life was not all about me.


All About me


When I had children of my own, my all about me attitude was much easier to relinquish. My attitude shifted to it’s all about them. I passed on the tradition of my parents. I loved my children and spoiled them. For a while life was all about them. Then they grew up and had to go through the same hard discovery that life really is not all about me.


The reality is there may be a season in life that our needs and desires are the focus. As we grow up, we all have to come to the realization that life is not all about me, and even more for the Christian.


Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the form of God,

did not consider it robbery to be equal with God.

Philippians 2:3-6


Maybe I have not fully let go of a hope that life is all about me because when I read Philippians 2, I was thankful it didn’t say I could not look out for my own interests. Philippians 2 reminds me to esteem the interest of others as well. It reminds me that Christ looked to the interests of others. I also loved that Philippians 2:6 showed Christ’s attitude that He did not consider it robbery.


It seems that Paul writes knowing what we may tend to do when we think life is all about me. We might feel like we have been robbed. We might feel like life is unfair, that somehow what belonged to us was given to someone else. Look at how far Jesus went to put aside Himself and focused on our interests.


But made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant,

and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man,

He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death,

even the death of the cross.

Philippians 2:7-8


Jesus put Himself aside. He left the glory and splendor of heaven to come to broken people who needed what He had to offer. But even in that He was rewarded.


Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name,

that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth,

and of those under the earth, and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,

to the glory of God the Father.

Philippians 2:9-11


In God’s kingdom, setting our self aside and serving others is rewarded.


But he who is greatest among you shall be your servant.

And whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.

Matthew 23:11-12


When we put our all about me attitude aside and focus on the needs of others as an act of obedience and faith, God will reward us.


But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is,

and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.

Hebrews 11:6

Here is a powerful and memorable story from Beth Moore about putting herself aside and serving another. 

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