Every person has been a victim of something at some point in life. Throughout my life I have been a victim of a dog attack and burglarized on a few occasions. I have had credit cards compromised.
Recently my husband and I were shopping. We used his credit card to finalize our purchase. Before we made it to our next stop, we received a notification that someone was trying to use the same card number in the Dominican Republic. The transactions were seventeen minutes apart and the locations were 1660 miles apart.
We live in a world that is making more and more people victims more and more often.
Most of my victim experiences were pretty easily overcome. There was one time that was not so easily overcome. I was a victim of sexual assault at thirteen. From that moment on I felt and identified myself as unclean.
My response was a series of dangerous and bad decisions. I lived out of the unclean feeling I identified with. I believed I was a bad person, that I deserved it, and that I had brought it on myself. The next two decades would be framed by the damage done to me as a victim.
Maybe it doesn’t sound so bad to walk away from a sexual assault with no major injuries other than a feeling and identity of unclean. But someone who has been a victim of sexual assault or molestation knows the inner damage can be a painful, life changing and life-affecting event. My mindset and decisions reflected that damage.
The problem was being a victim had left me wounded in ways that no human being could fix.
Now I realize I was not a victim because I was bad or deserved it. I know I did nothing to bring it on myself. The truth is: In this world we will have trouble (John 16:33) and we will be victims of something.
I am not minimizing any of our victimizations, just recognizing that every person who lives very long will be harmed or injured in some way. What your victimization and mine look like may be different.
What makes one victim overcome their situation and another be overcome by their situation?
I believe it is how they respond and their decisions. Everyone needs a season to process the impact of victimization. How long our process will be dependent on our degree of violation, pain, suffering, and how deep the emotional distress.
I was upset for a day over the credit card and moved on. I was badly broken for a year over the sexual assault. Then I tried to move on but carried the deep emotional scars.
Moving Past Being a Victim
We can’t stay broken. At some point we have to shake off our pain, dust off what residue we can, and move on. The problem is those invisible deep wounds.
What are we going to do with the brokenness inside? A pill cannot fix it. A man cannot fix it. Money cannot fix it. There is only one thing that can heal deep inner brokenness. That one thing is JESUS.
We need an avenger.
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath,
for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
If we believe what happened to us was because we were bad or deserving, what then do we say about Jesus?
So He said to him, “Why do you call Me good?
No one is good but One, that is, God.”
Jesus was God. Yet Jesus was a victim. Yes, a victim for our sake, but death did not keep Him down. He was resurrected. He is the resurrection and the life. He lives in us. His Spirit equips us to be victorious over victimization.
There comes a day when we have been through the initial injury and realize we must move forward. Are we going to move forward healed spiritually and emotionally? Or are we going to move forward with a spiritual and emotional limp?
God intends for a victim to be a full fledge overcomer. I wasted too much time limping around after the sexual assault. Two decades is too long. Deep inner healing was available if I would have turned to the right source, the true source of healing, Jesus.
I don’t know what you have faced, but Jesus does. You need what He has to offer. Turn to Jesus and allow Him to do a deep inner work of healing. Don’t waste time with a spiritual emotional limp like I did. Be the overcomer He intended you to be and wants to empower you to be.
Remember that it is a process! But a process must begin somewhere. If you haven’t begun the process of true healing and restoration, today is the day to begin.
Here is a prayer for you to use everyday in your faith journey to wholeness.
Dear Heavenly Daddy,
You know every detail that I have faced. You know where and why I am the most damaged. I need Your healing touch. Help me to know the truth of who I am in Your eyes. Help me overcome being a victim. Tenderly bring the damage to the surface and mend my inner brokenness. I know You love me and You are able to transform me into the overcomer You want me to be. I desperately want to overcome being a victim. Help me to walk in Your ordained path that I may shed the old identity of victim and experience the new identity of Overcomer. In Jesus name, Amen.