Broken trust is something we all are too familiar with. Trust is a beautiful thing but broken trust is the ugliest thing. Today’s blog post is from my friend, sister in Christ, and ministry partner, Debbie Takewell. Debbie shares her experience of ministering to another woman who had experienced broken trust. I pray you find words of comfort and encouragement through Debbie’s story.
Much Love and Blessings!
“We wait in hope for the Lord; He is our help and our shield.” (Psalm 33:20)
The Damage of Broken Trust
A distraught young woman with tears in her eyes poured out her heart. Broken trust had invaded her life. She had lost all hope of ever trusting the one person she had trusted the most. She looked at me with eyes longing for Godly advice and asked “How will I ever be able to trust again?”
Being an accountant, I thought about what the word trust meant. Trust is a precious gift. In the business world it is an arrangement in which something of value is managed by one person for the benefit of another. In relationships it is the reliance on the integrity, strength, ability or surety of a person or thing; confidence. Another definition of trust is the confident expectation of something; hope. Relationships are built on trust and hope. Nothing can be more devastating than the broken trust of being betrayed by someone you love.
Broken Trust: Jesus, His Disciples and Betrayal
Jesus built relationships with his twelve disciples. The bible tells us in detail how two of the disciples, Judas & Peter, betrayed Christ. Judas betrayed Jesus by pointing him out to the Roman soldiers while he was in the Garden of Gethsemane for a few gold coins. Peter denied Christ three times when he was asked if he knew Jesus. Matthew 26:56 says that all the disciples deserted Christ and fled. The fact is we will all be betrayed by those we love and by those who profess to love us.
Jesus didn’t give up on any of his disciples. The very one who denied him is the one to whom Jesus said “And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it.” Do you think Peter had to earn Jesus’ trust after denying he even knew him? The bible doesn’t tell us, but I know that Jesus knew Peter’s heart and he looked past the weaknesses that Peter had. After all, wasn’t it, only, fear that drove Peter to deny Christ?
I looked intently back at this shattered beautiful young woman and said “Your hope comes from the Lord and with hope comes strength to look beyond the hurt to the One who can help.”
Have you experienced broke trust? Can you relate to the intense pain that comes from being betrayed? We can’t stop the emotions that come from the pain and anguish of such hurt. We can put our hope in Jesus, the One who can help.
Written by Debbie Takewell
If you are familiar with broken trust, you are not alone. The Psalmist poured out his heart reflecting broken trust in his own life. However, the Psalmist also demonstrates one who continually chose to put his hope in the Lord. He saw the benefits of trusting fully in His God when his heart hurt because of broken trust.
Use these Scriptures as prayers and encouragement to help you focus your hope on the Lord.
- Psalm 33:22 – Let Your mercy, O Lord, be upon us, just as we hope in You.
- Psalm 39:7 – And now, Lord, what do I wait for? My hope is in You.
- Psalm 71:5 – For You are my hope, O Lord God; You are my trust from my youth.
- Psalm 78:7 – That they may set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep His commandments.
- Psalm 119:49 – Remember the word to Your servant, but I hope in Your word.
- Psalm 119:81 – My soul faints for Your salvation, but I hope in Your word.
- Psalm 119:114 – You are my hiding place and my shield; I hope in Your word.
- Psalm 119:116 – I rise before the dawning of the morning, and cry for help; I hope in Your word.
- Psalm 146:5 – Happy is he who has the God of Jacob for his help, whose hope is in the Lord his God.
Using my favorite online Bible study tool, I found that there are 134 uses of the word hope in the Bible.