Heartbreak can come in many forms.
Death brings heartbreak.
Rejection brings heartbreak.
Divorce brings heartbreak.
This world has many avenues which heartbreak enters into our lives.
Heartbreak is painful. It may even be more painful than physical pain. It damages us deep within, in unseen places. Physical pain can often times be seen. Other people sympathize and empathize with us when they see the evidence of our suffering.
Heartbreak is different.
It twists our insides in knots. It causes migraines and stress headaches. Deep painful tension build up in our shoulders and back muscles. Heartbreak can be so damaging that it becomes a physical sickness.
Sometimes our suffering is so extreme we feel like it can never be healed. Sometimes the suffering from heartbreak never is healed. The story of King David’s daughter, Tamar pictures a heartbreak that lasted a lifetime.
Tamar was seduced by her stepbrother who was in love with her. However, the minute His sin of the sexual assault ended, he hated and rejected her. Tamar lived a desolate life for the rest of her days.
And Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now hold your peace, my sister.
He is your brother; do not take this thing to heart.” So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house.
2 Samuel 13:20
- Read Tamar’s whole story in 2 Samuel 13.
The affect heartbreak had on Tamar’s life is a tragedy. While heartbreak causes extreme suffering in some cases, I don’t think it should ever last a lifetime. God intended for us to go through the suffering, to get past the suffering, and live a full life in spite of life’s heartbreaks.
We can’t avoid pain and suffering in this world. It is a part of life. However, God’s word tells us:
For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy
to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
There is coming a day when:
He will swallow up death forever,
And the Lord God will wipe away tears from all faces;
The rebuke of His people He will take away from all the earth;
For the Lord has spoken.
One day our present suffering will be completely wiped away and replaced with God’s glory, presence, and perfection. Let the truth of that implant a seed of hope, strength and encouragement in your heart!
If you are in the midst of heartbreak, you need a word of hope, strength, and encouragement for your present day suffering. Here it is:
Every Heartbreak Can Be Healed.
However, we cannot short change the process. There are stages of the suffering that have to be walked through to get to a place of true healing. There must be a season of grief and mourning. We can’t heal without it. But we also can’t stay there.
When I spoke with my professional counselor daughter, Taylor about this, she said,
“How much of our life are we willing to let the enemy steal from us because we can’t or don’t choose to overcome?”
That is really the question. Tamar let a lifetime pass, damaged and suffering because she had been a victim of sexual assault and deep heartbreak. The Bible has many examples of those who experienced heartbreak, had a season of grief and mourning, and chose to walk with God to a brighter future.
Think about Job. He lost everything, but even in the deepest state of suffering, he clung to God and trusted Him. Job’s future was more blessed than before his heartbreak.
And the Lord restored Job’s losses when he prayed for his friends.
Indeed the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.
Think about Naomi in the book of Ruth. She faced famine. She lost her husband and two sons to death. She grieved deeply for a season. But Naomi chose to look to the blessing of God and hope for a brighter day.
Then the women said to Naomi,
“Blessed be the Lord, who has not left you this day without a close relative;
and may his name be famous in Israel!
And may he be to you a restorer of life and a nourisher of your old age;
for your daughter-in-law, who loves you,
who is better to you than seven sons, has borne him.”
I don’t know what your heartbreak looks like, but I do know that God is good. He is in control of life even when it seems He isn’t. He loves you and has a great future planned for you.
So dear sister, here are some Psalms of hope for you to meditate on and pray over:
- Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart, All you who hope in the Lord. Psalm 31:24
- For in You, O Lord; I hope; You will hear, O Lord my God. Psalm 38:15
- And now, Lord, what do I wait for? My hope is in You. Psalm 39:7
- Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him For the help of His countenance. Psalm 42:5
- But I will hope continually, And will praise You yet more and more. Psalm 71:14
- My soul faints for Your salvation, But I hope in Your word. Psalm 119:81
- Uphold me according to Your word, that I may live; And do not let me be ashamed of my hope. Psalm 119:116
- O Israel, hope in the Lord; For with the Lord there is mercy, And with Him is abundant redemption. Psalm 130:7
- Happy is he who has the God of Jacob for his help, Whose hope is in the Lord his God. Psalm 146:5
- The Lord takes pleasure in those who fear Him, In those who hope in His mercy. Psalm 147:11