Jezebel brings up similar amounts of disdain as the names Judas and Herod. You can find her story in 1st and 2nd Kings. Commentaries describe Jezebel as “ambitious” and “proud” so she is obviously a great example of a diva as defined in my last blog, Is Being a Diva Godly?
I will give you a brief synopsis of this wonderful woman (that was sarcasm, if you didn’t catch that).
Jezebel was the daughter of the King of the Zidonians. So basically she was a princess who married Ahab, King of Northern Israel. The problem was that Jezebel and her people were idolaters.
So an idolater marries the king of God’s chosen people. I can already see the problems beginning. Her worship of idols, led to King Ahab worshiping idols, which led to God’s chosen people worshiping idols. This led to many Jewish prophets murdered at her command.
One prophet who wouldn’t back down to Jezebel was Elijah. He challenged Jezebel’s prophets of Baal to a tournament to determine whose deity was supreme: Baal or God. You can read about this tournament in 1 Kings 18:19 – 40.
At the end of this event, Elijah slaughters all of the prophets of Baal. Then Jezebel sent a threatening letter to Elijah. Jezebel was also responsible for the framing and murder of a man who owned a vineyard that her husband wanted. There is very little evil this woman wouldn’t do.
Jezebel was a very domineering woman who got her way. Her husband lacked backbone and would not stand up to his wife. His spinelessness and her domineering led a whole nation of people to worship idols.
If there is ever a story that shows the power of a woman, it is probably the story of Jezebel. She was a leader, but not a leader to follow. She had power but not the kind of power you and I want.
It is necessary to realize the type of affect we can have over others, especially our own families. We have the ability to build our family and others up, or tear them down.
The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
Although Jezebel did a lot of bad things, I don’t want to vilify her.
She is human just like me and you, capable of making decisions to do bad or good. These same decisions each of us make every day. I believe at the foundation of this narcissistic woman is someone who had quite possibly been deeply hurt. Maybe she was desperately trying to hold onto control to protect herself because hurt people hurt people.
The great thing about any woman who struggles with the “diva” label, they are never too far gone to accept and receive God’s love and forgiveness. He is always stretching out His hand to us. He desires that we leave our old life behind and choose Him.
Choosing God, and His love and forgiveness is where healing and change begins. We have to be willing to give up selfishness and our old ways so that we can find freedom in Christ. That freedom helps us:
- Love others and not worry about what we get out of our relationships.
- Overcome insecurities and be content with who we are.
- Be okay with not always getting our way.
“You know about the kindness of our Lord Jesus Christ.
He was rich, yet for your sake he became poor in order to make you rich through his poverty.”
2 Corinthians 8:9
Taylor Draughn, M.A., LPC, LMFT