What about me? At least a thought…
When asked to write about the “Diva” label women wear, I found it hard to put myself in those fancy shoes. I do not consider myself a “diva.” However, as I pondered the word and prayed for revelation the words “But Me” found there way to my ears often. I knew the Lord was revealing a different side of the word “Diva”. Hiding under the desire to be popular, glamorous, divine, and a princess is a common thread most women wear without even knowing – we just think it… “But Me” or But What About Me?
When I scroll through social media, my eye is always captivated by beautiful, endearing photos. Beauty attracts. My first reaction is delight then almost instantly it turns to comparison.
But what about me?
Why can’t my pictures look fabulous? I need to take better photos to capture the eyes of my target audience and ultimately get more hearts, likes, and shares. Maybe I should pay someone for gorgeous photos, then my business will grow like theirs.”
Something inside me has shifted and it’s so slight I don’t notice. I am distracted and contemplating all the changes I need to make to be more like this girl or that girl, her instagram post, her facebook photo, her ministry, and suddenly my eyes are no longer on my ministry and destiny – “my race”, but on all the others running beside me.
It was a Thursday night, and our Church was having a special revival service. My heart was curious, weary, and in complete comparison mode, yet I sat in unawareness. “Stay in your lane and keep your eyes on Jesus!”, Pastor Madu proclaimed. My ears perked up. The message seemed too simple to be true much less life transforming. But God knew. Pastor Madu continued and my heart was wide open lapping up every single word.
What About Me Pushes Me To Compare
“INSTAGRAM INSTAGRAM, TELL ME WHO I AM.”
“FACEBOOK FACEBOOK, TELL ME HOW I LOOK.”
Silence filled the room! The truth was hanging in the air, and then it began powerfully yet gently trickling down like fresh sprinkles of rain on our hearts. WHOA! The comparison trap was uncovered and truth could settle in.
God began revealing my shift in focus. I often look in others lanes to see what they are doing especially on social media. And in those moments of checking others out, I veer out of my lane, my gifts, my passion, my destiny into oncoming tragic traffic. This constant comparison leads my thoughts astray thinking, But What About Me?, I can do better, I should do this instead, and If I could create a masterpiece photo then surely this will be the thing that grows my ministry and my business.
I have been deceived looking through the tainted “But Me” glasses!
BUT WHAT ABOUT ME HAS ME LOOKING TO THE LEFT AND RIGHT AT OTHERS TAKING MY EYES OFF OF JESUS, DERAILING ME FROM MY PERSONAL DESTINY!
My social media pictures may never be a breathtaking masterpiece or even good. But I am His masterpiece. I was born for such a time as this. I am unique. He equipped me to encourage through words. Not through perfect photos. He put in me from birth a desire to encourage by pouring out Gods truth with my pen, fingers, and words. I encourage you to stop comparing yourself and your race to others.
You too are His masterpiece with your own race. You are beautiful just the way you are. There is hope, light, and abundant life for you. Don’t keep living out of comparison. Fix your eyes on Jesus. Run your race. Stay in your lane. AND DON’T QUIT. We are almost home!
“Therefore, having so vast a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, and throwing off everything that hinders us and especially the sin that so easily entangles us, let us keep running with endurance the race set before us, keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith. For the joy set out for him he endured the cross, disregarding its shame, and has taken his seat at the right hand of the throne of God.”
Here is the link for Robert Madu’s impacting message.